Sex Addiction Help

Do you have a pattern of lies and shame around your sex life? Do you risk contracting HIV or other STD’s due to uncontrollable sexual behaviors? Have you been caught cheating by your spouse or partner?

If yes, you may be a sex addict. You can take a simple free self-test now by clicking here to find out. Like any addiction sex addiction is not about chasing the high but rather a series of behaviors you want to stop but cannot even as it costs you your health, marriage, relationships, finances, family, job, spiritual connection.

Sex addiction is a problem affecting people of all backgrounds. CHS welcomes people of all sexual orientations, races, ages, etc.

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Cybersex Addiction Help

Are you spending an increasing amount of time on sexual chatting, viewing or downloading pornographic images? Do you find it impossible to stop even though the habit is stealing your life and time?

Are you are at risk of losing your job? Have you repeated lied to your partner about your late night on-line activities? Do you isolate from your friends and family? Have you lost interest in having sex with your partner as a result of viewing on-line porn? Do you hide your computer usage?

If so, you may be addicted to cybersex. To find out click here to take a free, anonymous on-line test.

For the past 12 years Alexandra Katehakis and her team at CHS has facilitated the recovery of hundreds of individuals and couples to not only stop destructive behaviors but recover their sexual health. At CHS you have the options of therapy, weekly individual and group therapy or our highly effective Intensive Outpatient Program.

Our expert therapists begin with the Patrick Carnes task-centered approach, followed by EMDR to resolve underlying trauma. Our work is complete when our clients have established a healthy sex life free of shame and secrets.

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What is Sex Addiction?

Alexandra Katehakis, sex addiction expert from Center for Healthy Sex, defines sexual addiction. watch video

What is Sex Addiction?

Click here to take a short quiz to find out if you are a sex addict.

What is Sex Addiction?

"Recovery is hard work. I tried quitting many times on my own and finally surrendered to accepting help. I recommend CHS for those who are ready to face and heal their pain head-on and live life on life's terms."

--Susan K.

"My wife caught me in my dishonesty and I came to CHS a broken person. Through tough love, and a lot of deep concern, the therapists helped me save my marriage and recover my life."

--Ken W.

"The team at CHS challenged me to take responsibility and stop colluding with my partner's promiscuity, which was at risk of HIV. With skillful compassion, they made a space for me to heal and become the person I always knew I could be."

--Amir R.

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Sexual Dysfunction

Sexual dysfunction refers to any sexual problem that prevents an individual or couple from experiencing the kind of satisfaction they would like from the sexual activities they engage in. These problems usually occur during what experts call the sexual response cycle which includes the excitement (or sexual arousal), plateau, orgasm and resolution phases.

According to estimates, sexual dysfunction occurs in 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men meaning they report some sexually difficulty or dissatisfaction. People are often afraid or hesitant to discuss these issues yet most instances of sexual dysfunction are treatable. Sharing your concerns with your partner and/or a professional is the first step to healing your problem.

Sexual dysfunction can take the form of dissatisfaction with orgasm, erectile difficulties, lack of sexual desire, pain during intercourse, performance anxiety, anorgasmia, (inability to achieve orgasm) premature ejaculation, and fear of intimacy to name a few. In other words, any problem that renders a person feeling less then satisfied with their sexual life that is not a medical problem, can be addressed in sex therapy.

Sexual dysfunction may be caused by physical and/or medical conditions. These conditions include but are not limited to heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, diabetes, obesity, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases, alcoholism, and/or drug abuse. It is also important to remember that many medications have sexual side-effects such as antidepressants drugs. If you have any medical conditions, you should consult your medical doctor before consulting a sex therapist.

Sexual functioning can also become dysfunctional due to psychological stress and anxiety related to work, martial/relationship problems, sexual performance, depression, feelings of guilt, and past sexual trauma. When related to psychological issues, in most cases, sexual dysfunction can be successfully treated.

Low Sexual Desire

Many people, young and old alike, have low sexual desire and it can affect their relationships. Low sexual desire can be distressing to some leading them to seek sex therapy.

Oftentimes, pre-menopausal women or menopausal women will participate in sexual activity less often including initiating sex and having intercourse and may report experiencing orgasm and general sexual pleasure less often than they once did. In other cases, post-menopausal women report having the best sex of their lives because they feel more sexually secure about who they are.

Men may experience low sexual desire due to health concerns, hormonal problems (like low testosterone) or relationship issues. Additionally, many people simply get out of the habit of having sex and are still operating under old ideas that sex is a natural "drive" vs. a cultivated desire for pleasure and connection with oneself and a significant other.

Low sexual desire can come in the form of a person never having felt much sexual desire or interest or in the form of having felt sexual desire, but no longer does. The extreme form of low sexual desire is called sexual aversion, meaning the person lacks sexual desire and finds sex repulsive.

It is very common for partners in a relationship to have different levels of sexual interest with one partner being the "low desire partner" and the other being the "high desire partner." Many times, people become "grid-locked" over these differences leading to power struggles, which exacerbate the problem. Although the two partners have different sexual interest levels, this can be negotiated and resolved in sex therapy.

Sexual Potential

Many normal couples in long-term relationships report sexual boredom and feeling a lack of interest in sex. Often this is the case because people forget that they, and their relationships, are dynamic, ever-changing systems. By reassessing who you are sexually, what you like and want, what you hold back from letting yourself and your partner know; you can begin to work toward your sexual potential. By opening yourself to clearing past resentments and revealing your sexual preferences to your partner, you create a deeper emotional connection that is often not easy, but worth the intimate, electric connection that results in the end.