Center for Healthy Sex: Forms for Clients and Clinicians Including Sexual Addiction Tests, Love Addiction Tests, Sexual Addiction Treatment, and Sexually Addictive and Compulsive Behaviors

Love Addiction Screening Test

The following 25 questions are designed to be used as a guideline for identifying signs of love addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that love addiction is not present. Many love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions can be an effective a tool for self-diagnosis. We understand that the diagnosis of love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful.

Adapted by Aaron Alan, MFT, CSAT from Pia Mellody, Patrick Carnes, and SLAA’s "40 Questions for Self Diagnosis"

Total Yes Answers:

If you answered Yes to 0-3 Q’s – you’re probably not love addicted
If you answered Yes to 4-6 Q’s – you may have a problem

If you answered Yes to 7 or more questions, we suggest you seek help for love addiction. Our skilled love & addiction therapy team will teach you how to overcome love addiction through comprehensive love addiction treatment and love addiction support groups. The clinical staff of Center for Healthy Sex is available by phone at 310.843.9902 or email info@thecenterforhealthysex.com

In addition to CHS, there are many resources to help those suffering from destructive sexual behavior.

For books about sex and love addiction, see: http://thecenterforhealthysex.com/recommended_reading/

For helpful websites about love addiction, national 12-Step love addiction groups and love addiction therapy referrals outside Los Angeles, see: http://thecenterforhealthysex.com/links/

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Our expert therapists begin with the Patrick Carnes task-centered approach, followed by EMDR to resolve underlying trauma. Our work is complete when our clients have established a healthy sex life free of shame and secrets.

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Sexual Dysfunction

Sexual dysfunction refers to any sexual problem that prevents an individual or couple from experiencing the kind of satisfaction they would like from the sexual activities they engage in. These problems usually occur during what experts call the sexual response cycle which includes the excitement (or sexual arousal), plateau, orgasm and resolution phases.

According to estimates, sexual dysfunction occurs in 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men meaning they report some sexually difficulty or dissatisfaction. People are often afraid or hesitant to discuss these issues yet most instances of sexual dysfunction are treatable. Sharing your concerns with your partner and/or a professional is the first step to healing your problem.

Sexual dysfunction can take the form of dissatisfaction with orgasm, erectile difficulties, lack of sexual desire, pain during intercourse, performance anxiety, anorgasmia, (inability to achieve orgasm) premature ejaculation, and fear of intimacy to name a few. In other words, any problem that renders a person feeling less then satisfied with their sexual life that is not a medical problem, can be addressed in sex therapy.

Sexual dysfunction may be caused by physical and/or medical conditions. These conditions include but are not limited to heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, diabetes, obesity, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases, alcoholism, and/or drug abuse. It is also important to remember that many medications have sexual side-effects such as antidepressants drugs. If you have any medical conditions, you should consult your medical doctor before consulting a sex therapist.

Sexual functioning can also become dysfunctional due to psychological stress and anxiety related to work, martial/relationship problems, sexual performance, depression, feelings of guilt, and past sexual trauma. When related to psychological issues, in most cases, sexual dysfunction can be successfully treated.

Low Sexual Desire

Many people, young and old alike, have low sexual desire and it can affect their relationships. Low sexual desire can be distressing to some leading them to seek sex therapy.

Oftentimes, pre-menopausal women or menopausal women will participate in sexual activity less often including initiating sex and having intercourse and may report experiencing orgasm and general sexual pleasure less often than they once did. In other cases, post-menopausal women report having the best sex of their lives because they feel more sexually secure about who they are.

Men may experience low sexual desire due to health concerns, hormonal problems (like low testosterone) or relationship issues. Additionally, many people simply get out of the habit of having sex and are still operating under old ideas that sex is a natural "drive" vs. a cultivated desire for pleasure and connection with oneself and a significant other.

Low sexual desire can come in the form of a person never having felt much sexual desire or interest or in the form of having felt sexual desire, but no longer does. The extreme form of low sexual desire is called sexual aversion, meaning the person lacks sexual desire and finds sex repulsive.

It is very common for partners in a relationship to have different levels of sexual interest with one partner being the "low desire partner" and the other being the "high desire partner." Many times, people become "grid-locked" over these differences leading to power struggles, which exacerbate the problem. Although the two partners have different sexual interest levels, this can be negotiated and resolved in sex therapy.

Sexual Potential

Many normal couples in long-term relationships report sexual boredom and feeling a lack of interest in sex. Often this is the case because people forget that they, and their relationships, are dynamic, ever-changing systems. By reassessing who you are sexually, what you like and want, what you hold back from letting yourself and your partner know; you can begin to work toward your sexual potential. By opening yourself to clearing past resentments and revealing your sexual preferences to your partner, you create a deeper emotional connection that is often not easy, but worth the intimate, electric connection that results in the end.

Yes No	1.	Have you ever tried to control how often you would see someone romantically?
Yes No	2.	Do you ever get "high" from romance, fantasy or intrigue?
Yes No	3.	Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when away from your lover or sexual partner?
Yes No	4.	Do you believe that a romantic relationship will make your life bearable?
Yes No	5.	Are you unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that person is destructive to you?
Yes No	6.	Do you have difficulty being alone?
Yes No	7.	Do you feel that life would have little or no meaning without a love relationship?
Yes No	8.	Do you replace ended relationships immediately?
Yes No	9.	Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?
Yes No	10.	Does attention to your romantic relationships help you to cope with or escape from life's problems?
Yes No	11.	Do you find yourself flirting with or sexualizing someone even if you do not mean to?
Yes No	12.	Do you ever find yourself in relationships you are unable to leave?
Yes No	13.	Do you feel that you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities?
Yes No	14.	Have you had sex with someone so that they will like you better or love you more?
Yes No	15.	Do you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow?
Yes No	16.	Do you believe that someone can "fix" you or "make it better"?
Yes No	17.	Do you feel that you're not "really alive" unless you are with your sexual/romantic partner?
Yes No	18.	Have you ever threatened your financial stability, reputation, or standing in the community by pursuing a love relationship?
Yes No	19.	Do you believe that the problems in your love life result from continuing to remain with the "wrong" person?
Yes No	20.	Do you often feel an instant closeness and complete connection with people you just met?
Yes No	21.	Do you need to have sex, or "fall in love" in order to feel like a "real man" or a "real woman"?
Yes No	22.	Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of romantic thoughts or feelings you are having about another person?
Yes No	23.	Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities for a given period of time?
Yes No	24.	Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your excessive relationship needs?
Yes No	25.	Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits?